How can I help a grieving sister who is angry with me?
My sister's husband died unexpectedly. He had been sick for 5 years, had surgery and died 2 days later. My sister called me, I left the next day, went to her house, helped with the receiving of friends at the funeral home, attended the funeral next day and graveside. My sister was fine the first day and then the following days, she was cold as ice. She would not hug me, tell me she loved me and made statements like" You don't know what I'm going through." My instinct tells me that I maybe I should have come sooner and stayed the whole time at her house though she has always kept me at arm's length. It never dawned on me to stay with her night and day, but I do think that is it. Her daughters are now cold to me and I'm hurting, yet my pain is not in the same category as their's and never would be. How can help her? Thank you so much.
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